To cry or not to cry…

To cry or not to cry…

There appear to be two battlefields that divide parents and baby ‘experts’ more than any other.  One is the breast vs bottle debate, the other is “should I let my baby cry it out at bedtime?”

Firstly, let’s start by explaining what we mean by “crying it out” or “controlled crying”.  Here we are talking about leaving your baby to cry for a short period of time, checking back regularly and reassuring your baby if needed. We are not talking about leaving the baby alone and crying, unattended, for indefinite periods of time.

Now that’s cleared up, how does “Controlled Crying” actually work? What do you DO? Well, there’s even disagreement between those who advocate Controlled Crying about exactly how it works (I did warn you it was controversial!).  Between Dr Spock (that’s the childcare guru, not the Vulcan), Penelope Leach, and others the age when you should start Controlled Crying is anywhere from 3 months to 2 years (although most people now agree it shouldn’t be done before 6 months) and you should return to them either almost as soon as they start crying, or leave it 30 minutes.

Fuller explanations of the four expert’s guides are detailed on the BabyCentre website.  In general though, the idea is to follow your normal bedtime routine, obviously including making sure that your little one is nice and snuggled up in their Kiddy Kaboosh baby sleeping bag, pop them into their cot and then leave the room.  If they start crying you leave them a reasonable length of time before heading back, reassuring them and then leaving again.  Jo Frost (aka Supernanny) gives a more detailed version of this basic approach on her website.

A few things to remember are:

  • You know your baby and know what a reasonable length of time is for them, so trust your instincts.
  • Chances are you AND the baby may end up crying.  It’s horrible hearing them upset.  If you can have a partner, friend or relative on hand to help and support then it’ll be easier.
  • When you go back into the room, keep everything very low key and muted.  You are trying to instil the idea that this is quiet sleep time.
  • If your baby is getting extremely distressed, or is ill then stop the Controlled Crying and see to them.  You can try again another day or try one of the other techniques we’ll look at in a future blog post.
  • Anecdotally, most parents say that the first night is the worst, but that within a few days their babies are settling themselves much better.

Of course, not everyone agrees with Controlled Crying as a way to help young children settle themselves to sleep. Some people are uncomfortable with a method that appears to cause their baby distress, feel it teaches babies that love and comfort is withheld if you are upset and, they believe, does emotional harm to young minds. If Controlled Crying isn’t for you or your family then there’s no shame in admitting that and looking at alternative ways of helping your baby settle themselves to sleep – it is a difficult process to go through and if you aren’t committed it will make it even harder. In terms of whether it does long term damage to your baby’s emotional development, this article in the Guardian gives an overview of research into the issue.

Finally, a word of warning. Just remember that all children are different. My eldest (a girl) just needed to shout before going to sleep and Controlled Crying worked a treat. Her younger brother didn’t need help settling until he was older. He HATED to be left alone and all Controlled Crying achieved for him was teaching him how to escape from his cot unaided, leaving us to also tackle the transition from cot to bed, which is a whole future blog post!

What is Tog?

What is Tog?

Tog rating is simply a scale which measures ‘thermal resistance’ and indicates the degree of warmth you should expect from your sleeping bag; the higher the tog of the sleeping bag the warmer your baby will be.

To make TOG simpler to understand we have developed four weights which will suit all climates, nursery temperatures and conditions

  • STANDARD WEIGHT – The standard weight sleeping bag is approx. 2.5 tog.  This tog will suit most European climates throughout the year when your baby’s nursery temperature is 18º – 21º and is by far the most popular thickness.
  • SUMMER WEIGHT – This bag is tested to approx. 1 tog and has a lightweight padding which is ideal for warmer summer nights when temperatures are around 21º – 24º. Summer weight sleeping bags are ideal for daytime naps and holidays
  • WINTER WEIGHT – the winter weight sleeping bag has a heavier padding and is tested to approx. 3.5 tog ; ideal for use when nursery temperatures drop to below 18º
  • LIGHT WEIGHT – This sleeping bag is approx. 0.5 tog and has no inner padding and is for use on hot summer nights or when holidaying in warmer climates when temperature rise above 24º.
  • The light weight sleeping bag is also ideal for daytime summer naps
What night clothes do I use on baby?

What night clothes do I use on baby?

Simply dress baby as normal in a body vest and sleeper. Remember that babies  maintain body temperature by ventilating through their head, arms and hands.

It is quite usual for baby’s hands to be cool during sleep. However if  the room temperature falls then simply add a further layer of night clothing; perhaps a cardigan or pyjama top. If you think baby is getting too warm remove a layer of night wear. A simple guide is to feel the nape of the baby’s neck – if it is damp then baby is probably too warm.

No more babies kicking off covers, getting cold and waking themselves

No more babies kicking off covers, getting cold and waking themselves

During the night all babies naturally wriggle and turn causing conventional sheets, blankets and duvets to tangle and slip off. Research has shown that this can result in baby getting either too hot or too cold, thus causing stress and discomfort. By using Kiddy Kaboosh Sleeping Bags from birth, babies and toddlers are able to move naturally whilst maintaining correct, but cosy warmth, thus assisting longer and more peaceful sleep patterns.

Kiddy Kaboosh sleeping bags are all made with soft 100% Cotton; we use quilted airfill polyester as a cosy filling. Your sleeping bag will easily machine wash and tumble dry.

It is advisable to have at least two sleeping bags for hygiene and laundry purposes.

Kiddy Kaboosh baby sleep bags fit 0-6 years

Kiddy Kaboosh baby sleep bags fit 0-6 years

In their Kiddy Kaboosh sleeping bag a baby’s feet should reach around 50% to 80% down the length of the bag. This allows babies and toddlers lots of space to wriggle and turn while maintaining a stable body temperature.

We offer a range of four sizes from birth up to 6 years

  • Size 1. 70cm long & fits from newborn (approx. 3.5 kg) up to 6 months.
  • Size 1 has an additional underarm snap closure for smaller babies
  • Size 2. 90 cm long fits from 6 months up to approx.18 months
  • Size 3. 110cm long fits from 12 months up to 2 years and to fit up to 3 years when extended
  • Size 4. 130 cm long and fits from 3 years up to approx. 6 years

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